The Perfectionism Trap and How to Escape

Please Disable Adblock to Show Download Link
DOWNLOAD eBooks
Author : Richard P. Walters
Genre :

Summary :

Please Disable Adblock to Show Download Link
DOWNLOAD eBooks
Author : Richard Walters
Genre : Perfectionism (Personality trait)

Summary : If you are trapped by your own perfectionism, Escape the Trap by Richard Walters will help you to understand how you got in this trap, and help you to get out. He defines perfectionists as "people who believe they must think and act without flaws ... Perfectionists remember the past with regret, don't enjoy the present as much as they might, and usually dread the future."

Please Disable Adblock to Show Download Link
DOWNLOAD eBooks
Author : Thomas Curran
Genre : Psychology

Summary : ONE OF BLOOMBERG'S BEST BOOKS OF 2023 'Thomas Curran is the world's leading expert on perfectionism, and he's written the definitive book on why it's rising, how it wreaks havoc on our lives, and what we can do to stop it. If you've ever found yourself fearing failure, ruminating about mistakes, or just feeling that you aren't good enough, this is a must read' Adam Grant 'A fascinating and panoramic analysis of perfectionism in modern capitalist societies' Grace Blakeley Today, burnout and depression are at record levels, driven by a combination of intense workplace competition, the comparative world of social media, the quest for elite credentials, and helicopter parenting. Society continually broadcasts the need to want more, and that we have to be perfect to get it. Why is this a trap, and how can we escape it? Gathering a wide range of contemporary evidence, acclaimed professor at the London School of Economics Thomas Curran calls for both a mindset shift and broader, societal change. He explores the paradoxical effects of perfectionism on everything from performance to social and financial inequality, and shows what we can do as individuals to resist the modern-day pressure to be perfect - and how we can create a culture that celebrates the joys of imperfection. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by the soul-crushing need to compete for more or to be the best, The Perfection Trap is for you. Learn to prioritise what's important, meet the world where it is and strive for purpose instead of more by embracing the power of 'good enough' in your life.

Please Disable Adblock to Show Download Link
DOWNLOAD eBooks
Author : Steven J. Hendlin
Genre : Perfectionism (Personality trait).

Summary : "All of us can relate to the feelings of inadequacy, guilt, and frustration that accompany the belief that our best effort just isn't good enough. For perfectionists, these "never enough" feelings may be a constant painful companion goading them to work harder without satisfaction or standing in the way of their making an effort because no result will be worthy." "In When Good Enough Is Never Enough, clinical psychologist Steven J. Hendlin, Ph.D., explores how perfectionism is so deeply and unconsciously ingrained in our achievement-oriented culture that everyone suffers from its consequences. Through absorbing and provocative case histories drawn from nearly twenty years of clinical practice, Dr. Hendlin demonstrates the various perfection traps: the desire to shape the perfect child; work perfectionism, and the driven perfectionistic boss and company; competitive perfectionism at play; marital and sexual perfectionism, and the search for the perfect relationship; and the emotionally and sometimes financially ruinous yearning for the best material objects." "Dr. Hendlin explores the various social, psychological, and religious causes of "never enough" perfectionism. Such problems as stress, stifled creativity, and dissatisfying relationships are examined - along with their solutions." "When Good Enough Is Never Enough offers us a way out of the perfection trap, showing how we may transform the energy that has gone into perfection-seeking into a more moderate, healthy, and satisfying pursuit of excellence. Emotional and physical problems related to perfectionism are examined, including anxiety and depression, stress-related diseases, obsessive-compulsive tendencies, eating disorders, and addictions. And various exercises are presented to help combat perfectionistic thinking and behavior." "Dr. Hendlin teaches us how to live with perfectionistic partners, parents, siblings, and friends. He offers us a clear alternative path toward excellence that is not driven by anxiety, fear, guilt, or regret."--BOOK JACKET.Title Summary field provided by Blackwell North America, Inc. All Rights Reserved

Please Disable Adblock to Show Download Link
DOWNLOAD eBooks
Author : Pauline Holmes
Genre : Christian life

Summary : Why do I feel I must be perfect? This book offers a truly biblical understanding of perfectionism, looking at its hidden-and truly horrifying-origin, and its certain cure: the gospel. Pauline Holmes is a British born psychologist who uses her knowledge of the human psyche to spread the gospel. In 1992 she and her husband, Walter, began Grace and Sanity Ministries, a non-profit organization which broadcasts radio programs and publishes evangelism books. Pauline's previous publications are "Hell and Madness: the true biblical basis for mental health" and "Grace in the Law: on re-attaching the head to the body." Much of what Pauline and Walter have written and recorded can be found on the website: www.graceandsanity.org. Pauline, Walter and their two dogs live in California. Pauline has two adult children and two grandchildren.

Please Disable Adblock to Show Download Link
DOWNLOAD eBooks
Author : Elliot D. Cohen
Genre : Self-Help

Summary : Demanding perfection in everything you do can create a life of stress, worry, and overload. With this essential self-help guide, you’ll learn to escape the perfectionism trap and cultivate unconditional self-acceptance in an imperfect world. Are you a perfectionist? Do you wear this title like a badge of honor, even though it creates needless stress in your life? Ironically, the stress you create by demanding perfection from yourself and others can actually make it harder to achieve your goals in the long run. It can also alienate you from friends, family, and coworkers. So, how can you escape the perfectionism trap and start living a life of self-compassion? In this informative and practical resource, author Elliot Cohen reveals the eleven types of perfectionism, and gives you the tools and skills you need to move past this distressing mind set before it leads to chronic stress, anxiety, anger, or even depression. Using strategies grounded in evidence-based rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT), you’ll discover how your perfectionism is actually a result of irrational beliefs, learn to challenge these beliefs, and replace negative thoughts with compassionate ones. Being a perfectionist can affect virtually every decision you make, and every action you take—leading to a life of perpetual stress. This book can help you put a stop to the absolutist thinking behind your perfectionism and take steps toward a calmer, more balanced way of being.

Please Disable Adblock to Show Download Link
DOWNLOAD eBooks
Author : Thomas Curran
Genre : Self-Help

Summary : In the bestselling tradition of Brené Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfection, this illuminating book by an acclaimed professor at the London School of Economics explores how the pursuit of perfection can become a dangerous obsession that leads to burnout and depression—keeping us from achieving our goals. Today, burnout and depression are at record levels, driven by a combination of intense workplace competition, oppressively ubiquitous social media encouraging comparisons with others, the quest for elite credentials, and helicopter parenting. Society continually broadcasts the need to want more, and to be perfect. Gathering a wide range of contemporary evidence, Curran calls for both introspection and broader, societal change. He shows what we can do as individuals to resist the modern-day pressure to be perfect, and in so doing, win for ourselves a more purposeful and contented life. The Perfection Trap is for anyone who has ever felt overwhelmed by the soul-crushing need to not just compete but compete to a level beyond reason. In place of an ever-moving treadmill, it offers the relief of letting go to focus on what matters most.